Saturday, June 18, 2016

Failure

“The road to success is paved with failure”



Tough times, pain, exhaustion, stubbed toe, tummy ache. Most of us seem to have this assumption that it’s going to be easy. Easy is probably the wrong word, as I don't think anyone really believes that change or accomplishing goals will ever be easy.

Unfortunately, a lot of us take these tough times as reasons to quit, or as signs that this isn't something we were meant for. We think that if it were, then why would it be so tough?  If this is what I was put here to do, then shouldn't the path be clear and easy?  If only that were true. More times than not it is going to be more difficult than you could ever have imagined; why do you think so few ever stay on the path? The problem is that you just don't know what will happen, and you never will—unless you keep going, or you quit. 

If I have a goal, and stay on the path to accomplishing it, yet never get there, am I a failure?

It can seem so difficult to even just get started, although it actually tends to be much easier in the beginning when you have a lot of momentum and motivation. It's not until you've been on the path for a while that the journey truly starts to wear you down. All the miles, all the setbacks, the pain and injuries, they really add up and each one only amplifies all the previous. That's when you find out what you are really made of and whether or not you want this bad enough. 

Even if you never make it, you are closer than you were when you started. The only time you ever truly fail is when you give up. I know how much simpler it is to just quit, especially after you have already done so much. To just sit back and say, “Well, I'm miles away from where I used to be and I've done more than I ever could have dreamt, this is good enough, I can stop.”

For me, even some minor failure becomes that much more exaggerated because of everything else that I have already gone through. That one small set back gives me a moment to sit there and dwell over the countless other ones that I've already had. The damage that has accumulated over the years and the things I’ve had to overcome can really wear me down. Yet at the same time I can use that knowledge to motivate me and push me further. It’s just a matter of how you apply it. Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing; yet, while I was going through some of those times I begged for mercy.  

Just like anything else, it's not a question of whether or not these things will happen—they inevitably will, regardless of whether you pursue your dreams or just settle. It's a question of if you are going to let it break you or let it motivate you. 

I'd rather go after my dreams with everything I have and fail than succeed at giving up.

No one who has accomplished anything significant ever had it simply handed to them. I can guarantee that you can go back and look at anyone's history, who you view as successful, and find that their path was riddled with more failure and struggle than you could have ever imagined. Unfortunately, most of us never get to see this side of success, and we only get to witness the end result. If people really knew what it takes to make it, it would completely alter their perspectives.  

Realize this: if you want something bad enough you are going to have to prove it. You are going to have to work for it, kill yourself day and night for it. Sacrifice everything for it and yet that still may not be enough.

 Nothing will be given to you, and when it comes down to it you will be grateful that it wasn’t. You don’t truly appreciate something until you have broken yourself in order to achieve it.

If you want something, then prove it. You must have, or develop, a “no quit attitude”, no matter what. Show how much it means to you, what you are willing to go through and what you are willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it. There should be nothing in this world that can take you off your path, because if there is believe me, it will happen. 

One day you will realize that all that pain, all those bumps in the road, everything you had to endure, is what made you strong and showed you who you really are. If this is what you want, if this is your dream, then keep going, never quit, never surrender. There is no pain in this world comparable to that of giving up! Accept that pain and failure are all part of the process and you are truly free to do anything. Face your fears, live your dreams!

-The End-


Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Can't stop fatty

It seems to be an ongoing trend lately, people not making weight. Not sure the reason for this. I think in part it's due to the fact that no ever faces any real consequences so one person will get away with it, probably still get to fight and maybe win, now the next person sees this and says, “screw it, guess I don't need to make weight either.” It's the same thing with judges and refs never facing any repercussions for the mistakes they make. We all need to be kept in check, regardless of what we do. If you don't have someone keeping you honest then you will inevitably never be as good as you could be, even if it's unintentional. Therefore, if you are constantly making mistakes and aren't being checked on them you will continue making them more and more. This needs to come to an end. We all need to be held accountable, particularly when people's health and very lives are on the line.

There is literally no excuse to not make weight. The one and only excuse any one could possibly ever use is the fact that their scale may have been different then the official one so they were a bit off, but it's your responsibility to make sure you do everything you can for that not to happen. Check multiple scales for example or make sure you check the official one before the weigh ins if possible. Besides the fact that, at least here in the states, you get an hour to make the weight if you miss it. Even if you took a fight on last minutes notice, you are the one who agreed to it, you knew you needed to be at that weight and it's your responsibility to do so.

Coaches need to be held just as, if not more, responsible for this as well. How did you not know that your fighter was going to come in heavy or why didn't you make the adjustments needed for this not to happen? You either didn't know or didn't care, not sure which one is worse. Coaches are like parents. If your child was coming to school everyday late who do you think they are going to blame? I can guarantee you if I had a fighter that didn't make weight it would never happen again. Have some pride and integrity in what you do. Especially if you are a professional.

I feel there should be a zero tolerance policy. You don't make weight, you don't fight, period. Not only that, I feel you should be forced to move up a weight class and fight there at least once before being allowed to go back down. I guarantee if that happens people will start to take this a lot more seriously. Unfortunately it has become an acceptable thing to do. Sure you might lose some of your purse but that's about it. Most of the time no one even mentions it. Put these people on blast, make sure the announcers let everyone know what happened. Instead they will say things like, “This guys sure is able to use his size advantage in there!” Yea, that's cuz he missed weight by 5 pounds. Let me come in that much heavier then my opponent and see how it works out.

Making weight is part of the job and should be your priority, even before the fight. That's the first battle you need to win. Too often people look to the big show and skip over the important details leading up. Not sure when this became an acceptable thing to do. Are you a fighter or do you just want to pretend to be one? If this is what you want to do then take some responsibility, particularly over the things we actually have control over. It's like showing up on time, it says a lot about who you are as a person.


The end